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Tips on discussing the dreaded topic with your kids


Our parenting style in Africa is something else. It is really a surprise how well many of us turned out considering that we were thrown into the deep end most of the time because our parents were too uncomfortable talking about sex and a host of other stuff they could have saved us the trouble on.

However, talking about sex is very important because today, it sells and it is everywhere around us. You never know when or how your kids are going to come across it because there is such a myriad of outlets so, is it not best that they hear it from you where it will be undiluted and healthiest? In this way, you quell their curiosity, create an environment where they can ask you anything and equip them against the pervasion that is all around us.

The best tactic at coming at this is in knowing that it takes a team effort. Don’t let your husband push you into doing it alone. Make him understand you are not so comfortable either but if you two talk to them about it, then it eliminates the mystery.

Secondly, there is no specific age when you should do this. Children mature differently. Therefore, wing it based on how precocious your child is or when your child begins seeking more privacy (you have no idea what they are experimenting with in their privacy).

Note that sex education is not a talk you have once and for all because there are details you may not be able to say to a 9-year-old but can say to a 12-year-old but it is best you have the first talk before puberty.

Also, approach it biologically (add inappropriate behaviors on their part or other adults) so your kids don’t over-attach importance to it then when they are older, add more specific details and relate it to their love lives.



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