Mothers are wonderful, powerful creators, the child’s first contact with humanity. She nurtures the baby in herself until he is ready for the world, then goes through labour—the most rigorous stage—to bring the child into the world.
After the child is born she is his teacher, his caregiver, she feeds and clothes and keeps him safe. Thus, it is safe to say that in the first years of childhood, the mother is the biggest influence on the child’s life.
Ever since the emancipation of women when we started contributing to the development of the society in professional jobs, there has been a mental struggle to balance the very important job of child care with the equally important job of advancing in our fields. This has created discrepancy-women who choose to stay home look down on women who balance home life with work, thinking them inadequate mothers and the same goes for women in professions. They think that women who are stay-at-home mums are underachieving as women.
The problem here is that women are looking at these views from their own side only. A typical working mother has two jobs-excelling in her field and at the same time caring for her home. This means that even when she comes home from work, she begins a new job of cooking, assessing her children’s health and well-being and being a wife. From the other side, a stay-at-home mum has the same job; she runs her family, takes care of the people in her household and cares for her children.
It is a beautiful thing that women can now choose how to contribute to the society even in male-dominated professions. We are carving the future into what we want it to be and not what the society has decided for us. The days when women had no choice but to stay in menial jobs are gone, and a new age of choice is here. Therefore, as women, it is left to us to choose whether to stay at home and care for our homes or combine our professions with running the home. Thankfully, there are many ways to make things easier at home, with hiring professional help and rationing duties between husband and wife and delegating so that she does not breakdown. Really, whatever works.
Women are already stretched thin, no matter how they choose to live their lives. We should not make ourselves even more vulnerable to infighting and competition about who is doing a better job at being a mother. At the end, we are all mothers, doing the most important job in the world the best way we can, and we should support each other.
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