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THE PRETTY GIRL PARADOX

I know a very beautiful girl who always worries about how men treat her. She is the prettiest of the bunch yet for some weird reasons that she finds it hard to understand why guys would rather speak with her ‘less pretty’ friends than her.

Once in a while, the odd, confident guy would come up straight to her, ignoring her friends and making her the centre of attraction – just like she thinks it should be. After a couple of sentences between them, she would notice their interest beginning to fade. In the coming weeks and months, they begin to prefer her less attractive friends.

Now do not tell me her ‘village people’ are hovering over her and chasing all the fine dudes away – that is an easy escape from the core question here. Let me tell you what I think the issues are.  Any guy who has chosen the ‘less attractive lady’ in a group of girl friends may give you one of two reasons:

It could be that the most beautiful and attractive girl is too shallow. After all, no guy has time for a beautiful babe’s wahala.

It could also be a sentimentally deeper reason of “I sought something beyond her outward beauty”.

Both responses hold relative truth. While these scenarios are not to be generalized as one that happens all the time, I dare say that the less pretty lady compensates her deficit in looks with an endearing persona – an attribute that draws a guy closer than the momentary ‘wow’ associated with beauty.

To be objective about this issue, it is necessary to state that many stunningly beautiful women have found love early and ended up in good marriages while many of the less pretty have been overlooked a number of times for their prettier friends. A close scrutiny of the real world from the University Campuses to the office environment however, shows that the lady with character trumps the drop dead gorgeous one in the long run.  This reminds me of the admittedly harsh but humorous meme about pretty ladies still forming while their mates keep getting married every Saturday.

How may ladies avoid these pitfalls? The solution is quite simple. An excellent fusion of both people as one, creates the desirable lady. What the more beautiful lacks in persona can be improved upon by inculcating attributes from her less pretty friend. The less beautiful lady could then in addition to her endearing persona add a poise associated with beauty – not necessarily becoming prettier.  Do you agree or can you think of another reason why my very beautiful and hot friend is still single today?

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